Is it just me or all of us think this way, is this the famous face of the male cheavounistic pig [MCP in short] which the feminists from all around claim, does this hypocracy exist in all our heads? why is it that it becomes so difficult to accept that women just like us men can have negative thoughts, they too can have shades of gray in their character, they too can intentionally cause harm, they too can be sadistic in nature, they too can be guilty of sexual abuse. Why is it that when it comes to women, general idea is that of a clean white slate, and with men, our mind is open to accepting black, white and gray characters.
The workplaces all across India are changing so much, we see a gender equilibrium in almost all sectors. Workplace politics for ages has been one of the major concerns to many people, its like the common cold, which eventually catches up on you one time or the other. So with the gender balance around, there are female bosses and their male counterparts, we have people of opposite gender working for you, with you and above you. So have you ever felt prejudiced?, honestly I have, I have a feeling that women hatch a lot less conspiracy then men. Does this bring out a possible subconscious thought that woman are naive, and cannot think bad for someone else?, in a way is this not a gender bias?, treating women in-equally?. or does this constitute a bias against men?.
Take any media for that matter, be it print, television or movies, and tell me honestly what you feel when you read about a possible report of an abuse, or a criminal offense, what picture comes to your mind, men or woman?. I would be lieing if I say I see woman, because I don’t. Given a fight between a man and a woman, more often then not my first instinct says its the man who might be guilty. May be its not just me, how many times in movies do we see a women who is the main villain, even the vamps end up being shown to be kind hearted at the end, or someone who have been forced by circumstances, where as the men are the intentional mean people, with all the negative thoughts in the world. But have to admit, with the advent of daily soap, and a lot of saas bahu serials, we do get to see the she-villains a lot, but again they are not easy to accept as being real, or atleast I do not think they are real characters.
We see so many instances of sexual abuse against women reported, and we hardly get to hear the same against men, does this mean they do not happen?, or do men never considered for sexual abuse. I did read about a school teacher in the US being convicted of abusing a minor male student, but that’s it, have never heard anything like this. Whenever a sexual racket is busted, or a mishap comes to light, its always the male involved in the issue who gets blamed. More importantly the general perception in minds of people, or to be certain in my mind atleast its the male who gets the initial finger pointing,
Are we going wrong here?, or is it something which is evolving slowly and our social outlook towards women and crime changing?. More importantly are we being hipocrates and reluctant in accepting women can be as bad as men, [just as the society was reluctant to accepting women could be as good as men]
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on November 10, 2008 at 4:33 pm
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marja Said:
on November 10, 2008 at 11:07 pm
Hi Rambler I don’t know if it is prjudice but I do think that man and woman are being different. Yes I do think men are more aggressive and abusive, but only some. I prefer to work with men though because woman are easily jealous bitchie and talk behind your back.
Prejudice? …… experience!!
preethi Said:
on November 10, 2008 at 11:57 pm
Reminds me of disclosure – Crichton
Autumn Said:
on November 11, 2008 at 12:07 am
Sexual abuse-any gender but leaning toward men because of media influence. I was technically sexually molested as a child by an older girl, but never experienced any from a male.
Physical abuse-both. My mother’s men were abusive to her & she was abusive to me. When I get really angry, I’m the one that raises my voice & throws things, not my husband.
There’s little to no gender bias in my little world. Male & female can be equally scary. (including myself)
Shilps Said:
on November 11, 2008 at 8:19 am
well…here goes what i think…in our initial society when women had not so outward attitude, it was mostly men committing all the crime around [not that nothing happened in families, females do their dirty part in all the famlies, there is atleast one, just that its not in any news or in any paper] and even if there female criminals, very few were reported..this has changed slowly and female criminals have shot up in numbers..all kinds of crime…terrorirsts recently added to the list…its all depends on how media shows you the picture. but i think, we do see a lot of things in our daily life, within our own families, that there is no bias..anyone can be at fault. YES, i agree with you, while reading any news, first thing comes to your mind is that the male might be wrong and IF this time its a female, you are surprised. Anyways, its something “:bad/ugly” a person has gone through OR thinks has gone through, for that criminal soul to have taken birth – no one is bad by birth.
Winnie the poohi Said:
on November 11, 2008 at 10:23 am
I feel men and women are both capable of being vicious.. manipulative etc etc.. but ofcourse the way they go about doing it is way different.. I feel women are more subtle about their manipulation.. and this comes from the conditioning they get since birth..
Also.. while I can say that there is a gender bias around us.. it is no longer valid to use MCP.. for I feel.. many of us females are not something of a reverse thingy.. I mean.. men r more open to females.. and yet we are still trying to finding faults..
And females are yet not ready to let go of their stereotype of ” the man “..
I think both men and women.. r not caught in a quagmire.. so its hard to generalize.. its like a huge mess..
Inverse gender bias at Blogbharti Said:
on November 11, 2008 at 4:58 pm
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Genuine Gem Said:
on November 16, 2008 at 7:37 pm
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