Pure Pursuits

Recently a post on my other blog virtual ramblings titled  “Couple of good news“  created a little bit of friction amongst my blogger friends and me. It was a mixed reaction to a topic which, when I decided to write about, did not even expect such kind of mixed reactions. It was meant, felt and thought about, as a natural and honest outburst of the attraction I felt to a certain woman/girl I saw couple of times on my way to work.

Some months back, I would have never thought it is well accepted and natural to express these personal feelings like attraction openly to others via the internet, share something as personal as love/lust over a place, where people may not be totally aware of the intentions, and so may be they would end up mis-judging your intentions. In fact I was never comfortable talking about anything personal some time back. My “Body or soul” series, and comments on them from various people, male and female, made me realize, that this is something very natural and there is nothing to hide about it.

Coming back to the topic of physical attraction. We all do get attracted to certain people. At times it is their smile, their face, their dressing sense, their interaction with people around them, and so on. Sometimes just a look you get instantly attracted. Is it really wrong to do so then?, is it wrong to “give in” to attraction?. I feel it is very natural to give in to attraction, and try to get more information about the person, try to see if you feel the same the next time around, or was it just your body that was talking the last time around.

I am sure gender is not a differentiator here, even women too might feel attraction towards a certain kind of men, may be physique, sense of humor, intellect, knowledge, smile, manners and so on, out of blue amidst crowd haven’t we all felt attracted to some one?, Haven’t you got attracted to anyone?.

Coming back to the question, Attracted yes so what should be the next step?, should one always walk up to the person and ash her/him out?, or may be try to get to know the person, or may be until he/she feels the urge to know more, try to confirm if there is attraction left? or was it just a passing thought.

Personally I do not give more importance to attractions. I would like to believe it takes a lot more than that to make me approach to the person to know more about her. I think spending time with the person is very much necessary even before thinking about the next step, may be if not in person, at least you got to observe the person a little more, because any relation which you get into in haste is sure to doom. Though I am not a big fan of living things to shape up by themselves, in areas like these where there are no right methods, or right ways, one has to just live it to the time, to shape things up and see where it takes you.

The next topic my mind drifted to was if the situation has changed over years, have people started to accept the natural attraction more, are they less prejudiced about it now?. I am not so sure, even though my opinion on the topic has changed over years, even though I have started to believe that  there is nothing wrong in getting drawn to someone physically, there are still reservations when I get in the opposite seat. I have caught some girls, though very rarely staring at me, that generally leaves me embarrassed and somehow feel like getting of the scene. And am really bad in seeing signs, I mean there have been couple of occasions where after a conversation, my close friends have come back to me and said, what was happening there, I think the girl was totally impressed with you.. but then I have to admit none of those times it was with someone whom I was attracted too.

Topics such as these have no resolutions, more the opinions more the information sharing. Something really worth discussing.

Again I am not saying one should stare at a particular person, or try to act smart or anything like that, nor am I trying to defend what I did. There is going to be limits for anything, and for this too. But one cannot ignore the fact that attraction is going to be there, you like it or not.