I was reading an article on Times Of India some days back, it was on the raise of the number of people opting for “Friends with benefits” or what the article cheaply stated as “**** buddies”. For starters its an arrangement to get some un emotional sex, with either your friends or someone whom you term as **** buddy. Its an attempt to enjoy the act with no strings attached.
I really don’t believe in the idea, but thats not the subject of the post, the thing that stuck me most of hypocrisies within me. I really did think for a second, why would a woman want such a friend, I really did forget for a while that women too like men might have same needs. So why is that women are considered to be these sexless beings where as men on the other hand are supposedly sexual maniacs. Why do we consider women to so benign sexual feelings wise.
This gender bias is not something which is new, I was just trying to recollect any of our olden epics which depicts sexuality of women, I could hardly come across any instance, only one which came near is the episode of Shakuntala, she is described to have been very excited seeing prince Dushyanta in the forest, and the poetry does mention more about how excited her body became after seeing him.
Even in the Indian movies, women are always shown to be the more patient types, they are never the one with the sexual feelings, they are always more emotional love seekers, at the most they are shown to be naughty a little, but when it comes to bodily feelings, the heroes are the one who make advance and the women are always telling no types. I can think of only the film maker Raj Kapoor who did show his women to be a little more aggressive sexually, with him as the hero, he always portrayed women to be more informed about these things, and always women instigating the relationship.
There must be some reasons behind the cliche-s, is it because women are not more expressive?, To be honest I don’t think men express too, I mean atleast not much more in this matter, or may be my perception is wrong. I feel personally that both men and women shy way from most of it in company of others, may be in private it is a total different ball game.
From what I have known women from the blogs I read, I guess they are equally interested or uninterested like men are. I sometimes feel totally uninterested in some areas which I think is over hyped and sex is one such thing, and some times the body does take our brains. But then I am sure women too must be going through the same feelings. They must have ogled at some person who excited them, and on another day, their intellect got stimulated much more than their body.
So what do you say?, aren’t we hypocrites?, Should women be considered as sexless human beings?
