Attraction, a thought which keeps baffling me day in and day out. what it about attraction which makes it hard to define?, why is it that we get attracted to few people and not to others, what makes them stand out in crowd to us. Something which might be as subjective as it can get.
I have always stood by my belief that I get attracted to personalities rather then people. I think its true to very large extent, When you talk to a person, there are so many things that talk to you, so many things in you develop conversations of their own sub consciously, and that’s where the attraction begins for me. But this is something which is when you are mind is thinking, when you are making a conscious decision, you are always in control of what you want, and begin to see if its present, so get drawn to it.
Some people really can come across and talk what they have in mind, some don’t, for example when I hear Lara Dutta, the ex miss world, I just listen, she has some poise and makes sense, I still remember the miss world pageant and the way she answered, I have never seen some one so bold, and level headed as her, its a shame that she chose a career like bollywood, to waste her talents on.
So you might say she is extremely beautiful, so its obvious that I got attracted and then found a way to defend my attraction. Then the same should go with people like Aishwarya Rai, Jeniffer Anniston, Angelina Jolie, Pamela Anderson and so on, all of them very beautiful, many of them have hardly left any beauty left to be imagined. But no, they don’t strike a chord with me, may be with someone else they do.
Again, keeping all these intellectual attraction aside, there must be still something which I am missing out here. When you are at a mall, or a movie theatre, or even when you are at work, amidst crowd there is always someone or the other which makes your heads turn, I would be lying if I say they don’t. What about these, you haven’t spoken to them, no you haven’t even heard them, so what attracted you to them?
Obvious reason which comes to my mind, or anybody other’s for that matter, is of course their body, the physical attraction, the lust. But again I have been proven wrong here many times. Its age old belief, that men get drawn to the big sizes, the swaying hips and what not, and women on the other hand have always known to fantasize tall, dark, handsome, bulging muscles and so on.
Honestly guys try to remember, how many times you have turned your heads for such features,
and how many times you have just smitten by people who are not many of those, no I am not talking about plane jane fantasy, somebody who is perfectly normal, not even wearing something provocative, just plain attraction.
There is always something that stands out, in my case in most of the cases its their choice of clothes and colors, whites and peaches are always in, blacks and greys are okay if they really chose the right things to wear. One other thing is smell, I have an acute sense of smell, so anybody who has put on the right perfume, I get easily drawn. I am generally very happy to see smiling people, even though I not always in good mood, it kind of puts me into it, so there you go another attraction, happy smiling people.
Once I asked someone do people really notice/care about what one wears, and I am shocked to find the answer in myself, people do, may not be directly the personal style one carries forms a big part of the person’s aura.
The next thing I notice is public behavior, if you really out spoken, or extremely friendly with people, I am a big admirer, but would never get attracted, the person should, I guess, leave a nice spell of curiosity, and want to hear more kind of impression, shyness, the tone, the voice, and of course a little secrecy all adds to the attraction.
But all said and done, this is just to turn people’s heads, but the real attraction again I would like to argue does not come bodily, it has to be the mind.
Planning to continue this soon, next stop attraction and age..
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P.S Guys I am hoping to get more of you to write on this topic “Attraction”, let me know if any of you want to share your opinion on this.
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