Guys If you remember some days back I had a request posted here, for people to send me email addresses for a series I was planning. I am so excited and happy to receive the kind of response I actually did. Thanks for all the interest shown and time you guys spared for this one.
Also I would like to apologize for making such a weird request, some of you did not like it, I do understand the concern in sharing the email address, I just want to say sorry yet again.
For the rest of you, if you want to participate, you are welcome, please send me your post, at rambler1981@gmail.com
Coming back to the project, Today I would be kick starting the series with a post by me, which will start the ball rolling, I would be posting a one new post everyday in this series all over next week. You guys can leave comment, I would request the author to reply to your comments.
I am all excited, Here we go!
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There are few inhibitions which take a lot to overcome, and this is one such. I have really thought long and hard if I should be posting this, and finally decided to go ahead. This thought had been on mind for quite some time now, and was in a dilemma whether to post or not. This post is mature in content, at least to me, so others like me, who find it discomforting to read, please do not read further.
Two of the most important aids of our existence and our future is our body, and the other, soul. Each of them really important, and each interdependent. Along with us, they both age, and they both develop, they both have needs, and they both dictate our behavior, our conduct and more importantly the pursuit.
How much importance should we give to our body, and how much to our soul. People are comparatively more vocal when it comes to soul, take me for example my blog is almost 200+ posts old, and I have hardly written anything about the significant half of my existence. Nor seen many people write about it. From ages, body and its needs are considered to be a weakness, and trying to satisfy it, the biggest failure. How true is this?, does a normal person like me really capable of running away from the “body”?, I doubt. Not talking about it, kind of worsens the problem, I mean lesser mortals like me who are confused to pursue the body or the soul or both, are left to continue in the state of confusion.
Growing up, the society has made me believe, its a total taboo, to even consider thinking about body. The gender bias that exists has also added to wrong ideas [which I am discovering off late, that it is wrong]. I was almost made to believe women are asexual beings, and men on the other had are sexual maniacs, I mean men are supposedly big thinkers of sex, and women on the other hand, more into soul aspect of the relation. Sometimes I am shameful of my ignorance, and this happens to be on the top of my list. Sometimes you happen to see something which is so obvious, and makes you looks ridiculous for having thought otherwise, this happens to be one such.
So, is it really wrong to think about your physical needs?, Is it something which is supposed to be fought against?, does victory against these needs signify a great soul? a greater will?, or in plain words is it necessary to not think about it. I have no strong opinion on this. Sometimes I feel its just natural and one needs to go through it as any other thing in life, I feel its not wrong at all to think about such pleasures which are as natural to human beings as breathing or eating. And there is nothing wrong about enjoying such pleasures. On the other hand I feel, just like defeating hunger is a challenge that needs to be taken up, defeating body needs are also things which should be controlled, somewhere I think my idealisms on this front are all goofed up.
Its really strange all these debate over something which is very short lived. What all people do for eleven minutes of pleasure. Somewhere there is something which I missing I think. The missing link was the soul that gets attached to your body.
When it comes to physical needs, its never alone, there is always your emotion which in turn attaches soul to the act. There comes the big debate, should one bring emotions/soul to the table when it comes to the pleasure. Wish I could know more on this. I somehow feel the talk about separating pleasure from emotions is not true. I don’t think anyone can ever achieve this. I have a feeling that even people who trade their bodies, too cannot achieve this. I might be totally wrong in this feeling though.
I cant get myself to believe people can distance emotions when it comes to the “act”. Leave alone women, men too cannot distance much from emotions. By emotions I am not just limiting to love/romance, jealousy, possessiveness, privacy, protectiveness and so on, you name it people will attach this to the body. Some people are also of the extreme opinion that to enjoy something physical, there should be no emotions attached, Even before I get to think if this is true, possibility of doing such a thing, is somewhat iffy to me.
The greatly talented Greek philosopher Plato once said, “At the beginning of creation, men and women were not as they are now; there was just one being. The Greek gods, however ,were jealous, because this creature with four arms could work harder, Zeus the supreme lord of Olympus, cut the creature in two with a lightning bolt,thus creating man and woman. This disoriented and weakened earth’s inhabitants, because now they had to search for their lost half and embrace it and, in that embrace regain their former strength, their ability to avoid betrayal and the stamina to walk for long periods of time and to withstand hard work, The embrace in which the two re-fuse is referred to as the making love.“
So do you think it is wrong to think about the body?, is it possible to separate emotions from the self? does men and women look at this differently? is it something which should not be talked about?
